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Would You Feel Safe Finding a Date Through an Online Dating Service?

A Las Vegas woman is suing an online dating service after a date brutally attacked her.

In this new technological era, online dating seems the most natural way to go. Everybody is communicating and talking to people through social media, so what not find a mate that way? Online sites, such as Match.com, have grown in popularity with many people now looking for love on the Internet.

One woman, however, is warning people of the dangers of dating someone who is essentially a total stranger.

According to CBS News, Mary Kay Beckman of Las Vegas is suing Match.com after a match she ultimately rejected hid in her garage and stabbed her 10 times. She reportedly met him in September 2010 through the site and dumped him eight days after making the connection. The brutal attack came four months later. She survived the attack, but another woman wasn’t so lucky. The man, Wade Mitchell Ridley, killed her before he was arrested for the attempted murder of Beckman. According to CBS News, a woman had sued iHarmony after a date she met on that site sexually assaulted her.

Beckman is suing for $10 million, but she reportedly wants to raise awareness to the dangers of dating a total stranger you met through an online dating service. She also wants Match.com to run a background check before putting someone into its database.

Do you think she has a case? Would you feel safe meeting and dating someone through an online dating service?

Crystal Huskey (Editor) January 25, 2013 at 02:46 PM
Interesting. I've had quite a few friends meet their mates online. I think there is just as much risk in meeting people at bars or parties as there is in meeting them online.
Vanzetta Evans (Editor) January 25, 2013 at 02:59 PM
Would you sue Carerrbuilder.com because you got a job from the site and your boss turned out to be crazy? Would you sue Realtor.com because you found a house on the site and the roof collapsed? Would you sue Travelocity.com because you booked a vacation on the site and got food poisoning at the buffet? This is just too much.
Crystal Huskey (Editor) January 25, 2013 at 03:11 PM
Exactly.
Joy L. Woodson January 25, 2013 at 03:19 PM
People are strangers when you first meet them anywhere.
rt January 25, 2013 at 03:53 PM
I say to each their own..but you don't have to blow it out of proportion. She was the one who decided to do that in the first place.
Jami January 25, 2013 at 04:06 PM
It is unfortunate what happened to her but with any dating situation, whether you meet online or at the grocery store, you have to be careful. I am careful not to share my last name, home address, work name/address or social calendar.
Deanna Allen January 25, 2013 at 11:48 PM
I agree, Jami, that whatever situation you are in, you must be careful.
Ryan Smith (Editor) January 26, 2013 at 06:03 AM
Ditto what most people seem to be saying. What happened to Ms. Beckman is horrific, but it the same thing would have happened if she'd met the guy at a singles bar or in line at Starbucks.
Jerry Fuchs January 26, 2013 at 01:05 PM
I met my fantastic wife online. We exchanged emails, talked on the phone, and finally met in person at a public place. All of this took time, and believe me, both of us were on the look out for red flags. It still comes down to the person sitting in front of the computer screen. Just because a profile lands in your in box, doesn't mean that they are "the one". That being said, bad things can happen to good people, so be careful out there!
odessa January 27, 2013 at 06:52 AM
Right!
odessa January 27, 2013 at 06:52 AM
Yep!
Karen January 27, 2013 at 05:38 PM
I've been an Internet user prior to the introduction of the www interface, which caused usage to explode. Even in the very beginning, running a local BBS, we insisted that people who met online to initially meet the person in question to meet in a public, group setting. Meeting someone online does not verify the authenticity of the person you are speaking with. In this Match.com situation, there is no liability on Match's part to verify thre accuracy of information of their users. From what I have heard, the victim in this case met with her attacker 8 times, prior to breaking off the relationship. If she felt that the relationship was not safe, she should have contacted her local police to warn them, and get a restraining order. Sites that are matching couples cannot verify the veracity of either party and the fact that the man in question is dangerous, verification of either party is up to the users, not the administrators of the site. These sites are more dangerous than blind dates, except that in a blind date there are people you know setting it up. The bict in this case knew enough about the perpetrator that she broke off the relationship which implies she knew more about the man than she is admitting. The fact that she continued meeting with him should relieve the dating site of any liability. The fact that she didn't report the perpetrator to local law enforcement makes her complicit in the criminal actions that took place.
Lucy67089 January 31, 2013 at 02:14 AM
I met my now the most wonderful husband over 4 years ago, we have a cutel 4 month baby boy. I met my husband on Craigslist, we took our time with everything in order to move to another step a phone conversation and finally to actually meet in person it took us a month. When we met, we went on dates almost daily, and I'd say by the third date, we were pretty happy, we knew it was meant to be. As a woman trying to get to know a complete stranger online, you have to be skeptical about everything, and if you get any Red Flags at all about anything I would say abort. Never give a guy your phone number until you talked to the guy at least 2 or 3 times. Block your number in the beginning. Make sure a guy sends you multiple pictures of him self and if there is many excuses about why he can't send a picture, abort. First date should only be in a middle if the day in a very public place, coffee and a walk is the best way to spend the first date. Ask as many questions about anything and everything, that will let you know how a person and their demeanor and so forth. Don't kiss and deffinatly dont "hook up" that is the worst thing that u can do and your honor as a woman kinda goes down the tubes. If in 24 to 48 hrs guy never calls you after the date to make another one, abort, ( dont waste your time, its not meant to be ) don't call or text a guy after the first date, or you will appear desperate. The key is Be Alert, Be Careful and listen to the Red Flags in your head.
Derek Collinson January 31, 2013 at 07:43 AM
It pays to join a dating site that has tight security designed to keep scammers and spammers out and with a video date feature that enables you to really get to know soemone from the comfort and safety of your own home before meeting them in person. Try attracion dot com that has these features.
m8safe January 31, 2013 at 02:49 PM
The internet is full of tips about online dating safety. She should have read first before divulging vital information. Also, I believe most dating sites give users options as to what information to show and hide.
odessa January 31, 2013 at 07:18 PM
I wanted to check out this site its some kind of Canadian website...probably gave my computer a virus.
Mitch January 31, 2013 at 07:52 PM
I had a girlfriend online and over the phone for about three years. I tried to meet her in person several times but it never worked out. She then had a serious car accident and later died from Leukemia. I wanted to go see her during this time but she said she did not want me to see her in that condition, so I respected that and I didn’t go see her. Months after she died she called me on the phone to tell me she had to fake her death to hide from drug dealers. Turns out this fake dead girlfriend was actually a male friend who was secretly in love me. He faked his voice over the phone to sound like a girl and sent me pictures of a girl he stole from the Internet. True story.
Raisa Habersham February 01, 2013 at 12:43 AM
Hey Mitch, My name is Raisa Habersham and I am a freelance reporter with the USA Today College Blog. I am working on a story about how not to get "catfished," which is when someone assumes an online alias to deceive another person over the internet. Do you mind if I interview you about your story with being "catfished" for my article? If you're interested please contact me at: raisah7@gmail.com. Thanks in advanced!
R++ One of the Famous Dacula Crew February 01, 2013 at 03:05 AM
Some people are strangers after meeting them 20-100 times...
Rusty Taylor February 01, 2013 at 03:58 PM
You have to be careful because of all the "catfishing" going on. If you meet someone whatever you do DON'T GIVE THEM ANY MONEY!!!!!! I don't care what they say they have or who died!!!!!
Rusty Taylor February 01, 2013 at 03:59 PM
I would feel safe but my wife would not like it so much!!!
Mitch February 01, 2013 at 07:03 PM
Raisa – I have already given a couple interviews and I really want to put this whole embarrassing situation behind me. I am trying to focus all my attention now to the NFL combine. Thanks for your interest.

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