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War on Christmas, War on Women, but What About the War on Men?

The success of the 2012 Obama campaign was attributed by some, in part, to a perceived war on women by Republicans. But there are those who believe it is men who are really the victims now.

Author Suzanne Venker created a controversy recently when she wrote an article previewing her latest book, “How to Choose a Husband (And Make Peace with Marriage)." In the article, Venker alludes to the fact that there is indeed a battle of the sexes, but it is men who are on the losing end.

In an interview on Fox News, Venker reports that now that for the first time in history, women have become the majority of the U.S. workforce. In addition, women are getting most of the degrees. The outcome is a change in the relationship between men and women. And the result – men are no longer so keen to get married. The reason, Venker said, is that men claim women aren’t women anymore.

Venker went on to question whether maybe some of the problems of today are not necessarily the fault of men. For decades, men have taken the blame. But now they are tired of being told everything that is wrong is their fault. 

Is it time women stood up and took responsibility for some of the wrongs in the relationship between the sexes? Is it possible that the war is no longer against women – that it is men who are now in the crosshairs? What do you think?

Good Grief Y'all December 03, 2012 at 02:14 PM
You're kidding, right? Marriage is supposed to be upheld by both, but for too long women have been the partners who had to work harder to keep the relationship going. There are exceptions and now more men are helping with the children and household chores, but mostly it's the women who hold the marriage or relationship together. The "War on Women" is not about relationships between the sexes. It's about women's rights in all matters, not just sexual or health issues.
Jonathan Wofford December 03, 2012 at 03:19 PM
The sad part about it is that I have been getting on a soap box about this for several years now. I would agree with the statement that men are on the losing end of any type of battle. We are portrayed in movies and tv as uber masculine or we are portrayed as Ray Romano, from everyone loves raymond. Stupid guys who are the whipping boy for all the women in their lives. Yes I know there are other characters, but they are always down played so all you really end up seeing is either a Fabio from a romance novel or the wimpy Ray Romano. The problem with the statement & the perception a lot of men have about women not being women, is that men aren't being men as well. Men have forgotten how to be men, take responsibility for themselves and be leaders of their life & family. Women are in this problem as well because a lot of them have been told that they have to fill in all the gaps & then tend to their man. A relationship is a partnership, you are both in it together. You both have to step in when the other person falters and help pick them up. You should know each others strengths & weaknesses. That way instead of fighting because something was done or hasn't happened you can recognize that it just falls into a weakness category. You can either grow from it and become closer together or you can grow apart. Is there a war on men? Yes, and it is being waged on us by us. Real men and their real women should be the biggest concerned because they will be affected the most
Sharon Swanepoel December 03, 2012 at 04:38 PM
Wow Jonathan, didn't know you felt so strongly about this. :) Thanks for giving us your perspective!
Michelle Couch December 03, 2012 at 06:17 PM
I just say sigh... It all seems impossible to figure out anymore. I agree with Sharon - very interesting analogy Jonathan.
Jonathan Wofford December 03, 2012 at 06:44 PM
I have a few subjects that I feel passionate about, this is one of them. It is partially because my dad worked out of town during those "learning to be a man" years. So there was a lot that I had to learn and figure out on my own. It is also the reason why I started studying ancient civilizations and cultures. I wanted to see the differences between how we are hard wired vs how we are currently programmed. There are a lot of stark differences in how we are hard wired, which caused me a lot of confusion for years. There isn't a manual on how to be a man or a woman, just peoples ideas of how everyone should be. Some are good, some are bad and a lot more are just crap. This is also the reason why I am very conscious about what I watch and read. If I can't learn something or if there aren't strong characters that are leaders, then I usually won't watch or read.
Tammy Osier December 04, 2012 at 12:55 AM
Good posts Jonathan.
Adam Gamble December 04, 2012 at 12:58 AM
I think it's time men start re-watching Braveheart, Robin Hood, and Gladiator..these men were honorable, manly men. Men to be revered and respected. There was a sense of nobility in these men. It's seems as if men now consist of your "Two and a half men" type men. There is nothing to honor, nothing to respect. Why should women have anything to do with us if there is nothing to appeal to them...we are beginning to have no use for them so they are seeking their own worlds..which is fine, and to be respected, however in relationships we need to stand united and as one.

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