I wear my heart on my sleeve but sometimes have on a light jacket....
The echoed whispers of love come alive today from several hand-written letters found in my grandmother's room. They were locked away in her heart forever, but found in a shoebox buried deep inside her closet. The lover who captured her heart over 70 years ago was my grandfather, an airborne Jumpmaster of the 101st. Letters proving the existence of a long distance true love without the convenience of Internet or cell phones.
It seems that every romantic love story is set afire by a separation of some kind. We see this in both fiction and non-fiction story lines and movies. What makes the heart desire something when it's taken away? A greater appreciation? A fear of loss? Whatever the reason, LOVE is not to be underestimated. If the love is true it will withstand all obstacles, whether that be distance, a separation, money, illness, and all other things. However, love does not always end up like a fairy tale.
I was once in love with someone in Northern Europe. He told me I was the most lovable woman he had ever met. This surprised me because I considered myself the exact opposite. When I was only 15-years-old I lost my mother in an automobile accident and since then I've always viewed myself as "unlovable." I had the mentality that 90 percent of my heart was buried in my mother's grave and the other 10 percent was guarded by the pitbull of my powerful mind. The compliment was the nicest gift I've ever accepted from a man, and I will lock it away in my heart forever. Although he and I were extremely compatible, he said the distance was too far to create a lasting relationship. This did not mean he didn't love me, he just didn't love me enough to pursue a life with me. But it also meant he cared enough to not break my heart in the long run. Sometimes love is about letting go so you may accept something greater for your life. He ended up going back to his old girlfriend who was local. I was happy for him because being with her is what made him most comfortable. This is what confirmed to me I cared deeply for him…because I let go out of love, rather than hanging on in bitterness.
The world itself should not be an obstacle to stand in the way of the development of a true love. In today's society we are conditioned to be unemotional robots that are productive realists. Many people view love as a weakness rather than the greatest gift known to man. I'm not saying to go out and seek love at this very moment, because love will find you when you are most happy with yourself.
Instead of working on falling in love with someone, work on improving yourself in every aspect of your life. For example, go to the gym. When you are in good physical shape you feel better about your looks and your health. This is not about being competitive and marketing yourself. This is about creating balance in your life, which is essential to have between your work, family, and social life. If you are not able to do this you will be doing yourself, as well as the person you date, a disservice. The more organized your life is being single, the less drama to enter your future relationships.
There is nothing wrong with being single. Utilize the time to your advantage for self-improvement. You must first be satisfied with yourself before sharing your true self with another person. If you don't love yourself why should someone else? Make yourself happy! Go sit in the beautiful sunshine, as it is free and full of the natural anti-depressant: Vitamin D. Go hiking or for a scenic walk. You will reconnect with nature and get your exercise at the same time. Listen to upbeat music to lift your spirit. It is amazing how positive energy attracts.
Love comes in all sizes, shapes, colors, and forms. Do not seek it out, as it will find you. You can only work on yourself to be prepared for when it knocks on your door. Be ready because it is truly a beautiful thing! Also keep in mind that friendship is the foundation for all relationships. Friendship is like an oak tree. If you have a strong foundation then they are like very deep roots into the ground. If love grows too fast you will end up with shallow roots like a pine tree. When the big storms of life blow through, the pine trees are the first to fall. But the oak tree is rooted well into the ground and can withstand the hardest of storms.
Open your mind to discovering yourself, who you are, and your purpose on this journey through life. When love finds you it will take your individual happiness to amazing new heights!
Lynne van Buul, CEO
Bella Derma Medspa, Inc.
Lynne Van Buul is a resident of Loganville, GA. She has four teenagers, three of which are triplets. Her oldest is in college.
She is the founder and CEO of Bella Derma Medspa, Inc. located at 7748 Hampton Place in Loganville. Her background is 16 years in respiratory therapy and just recently completed her nursing degree.
She worked for 8 years as a critical care respiratory therapist with a medical transport team transporting many patients on life support throughout the world.
Her interests include family, foreign travel, arts and entertainment (ballet, opera, symphony), the great outdoors, non-surgical anti-aging, physical fitness, etc.