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Keeping Kids Off The Street

On a more serious note, I offer you this PSA on a really easy way to keep other people's kids positively occupied so they don't cause trouble or cost us money.

My first 'real' job as a lawyer was as a prosecutor in the DeKalb County Juvenile Court.  I loved it.  I ended up working there for over ten years, and left only because I decided that after ten years it was time for me to see what else was out there in the world before I got too entrenched and no one would ever let me do anything else.

 

It didn't take long in my tenure there to learn that there were certain patterns. (There are also patterns in private practice, such as the 'back to school' divorces, but that's a topic for another day.)  Every time there was a school break, there was a large uptick in shopliftings and burglaries and generic fights. A lot of folks do their Christmas shoplifting, too. The hours of 3-5pm were prime residential burglary hours.  The reasons for this were fairly simple.  School keeps kids occupied with productive (or at least non-destructive) activity. As soon as school lets out, whether it is at the end of the day, or for an extended break, there is nothing productive for a lot of kids to do, and during these times of day their parents are working, so there isn't a whole lot of grownup supervision.  

 

I'm not talking about the kids who are on the school teams, or who play an instrument in the band, or who have a job.  Those kids are capable of finding their own things to occupy their time.  I'm talking about the kids whose family support isn't what we wish it would be, either from complete lack of interest or an inability because they are working two full time minimum wage jobs just to keep a roof over everyone's head and food in their bellies. Really, think about it.  There are so many families out there, where Mom or Dad can’t be present because they are working 50, 60, 70 hours a week just to keep the bills paid. I don’t know about you, but those are the people I want to help – the people who are trying as hard as they can but it just isn’t enough.  I’m talking here about kids who want nothing more than positive attention, and, when that can't be gained, they get attention in any way they can.  When you are getting arrested, everyone is paying attention to you, no?  You are the focus of a whole lot of people. And Mom has to stop what she's doing to deal with you. Since there aren't adults who are either willing or able to make these kids feel good about themselves, they turn to their peers. And we all know what good judgment your typical 15 year old kid has, and what makes them laugh, and what they think is 'cool'.  It isn't good grades and law abiding behavior.

 

In working with the Juvenile Court in DeKalb, when I did it exclusively, and since in my private practice in many Courts all over the state, I can tell you this: I have never seen a kid in Juvenile Court who was an active participant in the Boys & Girls' Club.  (Well, as a defendant.  Some might have been witnesses if you want to be technical.)  This really is an amazing organization.  Unlike almost every other activity for kids the entrance fee is ridiculously low.   Seriously, it is something like $35.00 for the whole school year.  So all the families that can't afford a babysitter or afterschool care, or the price of sports and other activities can afford this.   They even provide transportation from the school!  It gives kids a positive, safe place to be when school is out, and teaches them all about leadership and friendship and cooperation, and all of those things we'd like kids to learn, as opposed to which stores has the least observant security guards, and what kinds of locks are easiest to pick.  If you have ever heard one of the graduates speak about their experience there, what they came from, and how the Boys and Girls' Club helped them find a future, then you have cried.  If you have not cried, then you are some kind of soulless robot.

 

My friend Lindsey Hickman is on the board of the Walton County Boys & Girls' Club.  She emailed me a few days ago and asked if she could hijack my blog for a day to give them a little publicity.  Naturally, my first thought was, "Requests?  What am I?  A lounge singer?"  But then I thought well, why not let people know what a wonderful public service this group can provide?  Most of us are oblivious to what it does.  Lindsey also supplied me with some helpful facts that I could use, my favorite of which is that for every dollar spent on a child at the Boys & Girls' Club, $5 is saved down the road in terms of prison costs, public assistance, and public housing.  Normally, I am pretty skeptical of numbers like that, which usually sound made up to me.  But having seen first hand how much it costs to keep a kid on probation, or put him in jail, and knowing how many zillions of tax dollars each year go into public assistance programs, I think that dollar figure is probably pretty low.  I don't want to give a person a fish on a prison lunch tray.  I want to teach them how to fish in the free, fresh air.  And that, in a nutshell, is the mission of the Boys and Girls' Club -- they want to teach these kids to fish so we don't have to pay for the fish on their behalfs (behalves?) later.

 

On the cover of the latest Walton Tribune (am I allowed to say that on the Patch?), I read an article about how the Social Circle Boys & Girls Club had to close and it was ‘merged’ with the Monroe Club.  What a tragedy it would be if the Monroe Club closed as well.  I’d expect burglaries and shopliftings to go up, too. 

 

Naturally, even though a child is only charged $35 for the year, it costs waaaaay more than that to keep them occupied.  Another fact Lindsey gave me for use herein is that it costs $1000.00 a year for each child at the Club.  That extra $965.00 has to come from somewhere.  Consider it an investment -- every dollar you spend now is four dollars you don't have to spend later.  More if you count the alarm system you'll have to buy after the after-school burglary and the extra home insurance rates after you make a claim.  I also happen to know that most big stores jack up their prices to make up for the stuff that walks out the door and to pay for the security guards.  I don't know about you, but I have no interest in paying for these things for these bored jokers.   I'm too busy trying to scratch out my own living.  I've already outed Lindsey, so I won't out her further by giving out her contact information, but I will give you the address for the local club: 405 Community Circle, Monroe, GA 30655.  Surely when we are forking out $45 for the latest video games, we could find something -- if not money, then supplies, or our time, or whatever they need -- to save money down the road. 

 

This concludes the public service announcement portion of this blog.  I will return to my usual drivel in the next posting.

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Lindsey Hickman December 12, 2012 at 05:59 pm
Thank you so much Lori! And I will gladly give my info: hickmanlindsey@gmail.com or 678-357-2639. Anyone who is interested in more information, visiting our club, or donating can contact me directly.
As usual, I enjoyed reading your post!
Rebecca P. Dally December 12, 2012 at 06:44 pm
Lori, you hit the nail on the head. In fact, you hit a lot of nails on the head. Thank you for taking the time to increase local awareness about the Walton County Boys & Girls Club. It is an awesome organization, and we have to support it in order to keep it in our community!
Becky Dally
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) December 12, 2012 at 08:20 pm
Absolutely you're allowed to say what you like on Patch Lori (I know you well enough to know I can safely make that blanket statement) and any help the Tribune and Patch can give to this organization the better.
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) December 12, 2012 at 08:22 pm
And yes, I have listened to one of those stories and yes, I cried.
thcooper69 December 15, 2012 at 12:49 pm
the police need to stop and question any kid they see out on tha streets especially after 9 pm for tha safety of tha community and themselves . most are up to no good and are carryin dope ,they could jus wander out into traffiks causing accidents
Tammy Osier December 15, 2012 at 01:38 pm
Coop, they already do.
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Just a short thought to get the word out quickly about anything in your neighborhood.
Share something with your neighbors. Write a new post... What's up? Make an announcement, speak your mind, or sell something
EMILY GOLDSTEIN June 18, 2013 at 09:49 pm
Rabies tag on dog leads to a disconnected owners number
David Binder June 18, 2013 at 06:03 pm
And it's not posting my comment how I typed it. It's jumbled on the "Boards" banner.
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) June 18, 2013 at 06:11 pm
Yea, sorry David. We are still dealing with some "issues." It rejected Jason's blog, andRead More none of us, not even our top regional editor, is being given authority to release it. Poor Jason, I know he so hates being rejected! And we hate it happening to him. The people not being "bugged" by technical issues, however, are reporting that it is super easy to use.
Tammy Osier June 18, 2013 at 01:08 am
Sadly, Mr. Newman, we have people who live in a utopic vision of the world and refuse to believeRead More that this can happen. Sounds a bit like 1984. Ironic too, is that in the bible, when the Lord was referring to people being blinded and going astray, he referred to them as sheep, and that phrase has been coined today to denote the same type of mentality. This could happen if our watchmen stop guarding the gate.
Karsten Torch June 18, 2013 at 12:39 pm
What's sad is that people will accuse you of needing a tinfoil hat because of this post. But weRead More are marching inexorably toward this end, the only thing we can really control is how quickly or slowly we get there.....
TheSkalawag June 18, 2013 at 08:29 pm
I don't think that Ray needs a tinfoil hat but I just don't see the inexorable march to theRead More dystopian world Ray is foretelling either. I do understand the gloom and doom outlook and I attribute that to the unrealistic quest for the Norman Rockwell version of life in America. That kind of life was made for tv. Life never really was like that. At least not that I remember anyway. And I would wager not for the majority of Americans.
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) June 18, 2013 at 03:05 pm
Tom, I will see if I can find the connection.
Sharon Swanepoel (Editor) June 18, 2013 at 05:51 pm
Good news! Her name is Izzi and she has been reunited with her owners.
Tom Laverick June 18, 2013 at 09:42 pm
Great News!!!!
tijensen June 15, 2013 at 12:34 pm
The better assignment would have been how could you have written a letter to try and convince themRead More not to commit suicide. To persuade them about all the wonderful things you love about them, how special they are and what the world would miss if they were not in it. A creative teacher could have used the same exercise to teach a life lesson that may have helped someone save a life down the road.
Tammy Osier June 15, 2013 at 12:40 pm
TJ, exactly. Like you said, a GOOD teacher would have found a way to make students think outside theRead More box yet still examine the mood of the story. But I do agree with ggy that it might have been more appropriate for a college aged student. High school (girls especially) have so much drama going on inside of them, and confusion about so many things, that it might be impossible for them to be objective in an assignment like that. Boo to the teacher.
flyinby June 15, 2013 at 08:34 pm
strikes me as more subversive attempts by perverted minds dedicated to influence all our childrenRead More with this sick mindset: http://larouchepac.com/node/11188 http://www.naturalnews.com/040744_euthanasia_children_mercy_killings.html http://www.lifenews.com/2013/06/06/sarah-palin-blasts-sebelius-for-denying-girls-lifesaving-lung-transplant/ http://cnsnews.com/blog/judie-brown/lives-unworthy-be-lived-and-polst http://endoftheamericandream.com/archives/the-elite-are-attempting-to-convince-us-that-killing-off-our-sick-grandparents-is-cool-and-trendy suicides higher than car crashes past few yrs http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2207089/56-million-suicide-prevention-programme-launched-study-reveals-Americans-lives-die-car-crashes.html http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/02/08/more-states-consider-legalizing-assisted-suicide-as-baby-boomers-age/
Octo Slash June 14, 2013 at 12:18 pm
My kids drink coffee every morning because they need something to accompany their cigarettes.
Tammy Osier June 14, 2013 at 01:12 pm
Tr - the perfect diet - the Mediterranean diet has a lot of fish in it. Olive oils etc... OurRead More American diet has a lot of animal fat in it and look at us as opposed to other nations! Fish oil is brain food. A multi is good, but we should ask our pediatricians about adding fish oil to our kids' diets. We should get our (good) fats through diet. Good fats help vitamins go where they are supposed to and do what they're supposed to do.
Deedee June 15, 2013 at 08:12 pm
My grandma always drunk coffee all day and I started around 30 and I am no good without at least oneRead More cup a day but she always stated that we couldn't have any as kids because it will stunt our growth. I have always felt that there is something to many of those old sayings and did not let my son touch it.
Tammy Osier June 17, 2013 at 01:53 pm
DR, seems like an oxymoron doesn't it? I'd like to hear from someone who is actually from there toRead More find out their spin on why they even enter a contestant in the first place. It's my understanding that a woman that shows that much skin in public will be flogged or worse? Maybe democracy is taking ahold in some places, who knows?
Good Grief Y'all June 17, 2013 at 03:24 pm
I was wrong. Guys are interested pageants. You would no doubt be happy if the contestants justRead More wore the face shawl with their bikinis.
Karsten Torch June 17, 2013 at 04:30 pm
Couple of thoughts - One, why hold it in a land where there is going to be this kind of protest?Read More Just move it and don't worry about it. Other, I find it interesting how the Muslims want us to be understanding and inclusive of their beliefs, but don't even think they'll allow anything they don't agree with. Just a tad bit hypocritical...
R June 14, 2013 at 02:06 am
You mean the FEES don't you? Cause they aint taxes don't you know...
Bonnie June 14, 2013 at 11:50 am
I call it a "rainbow!"
M.K. Osborne June 14, 2013 at 03:30 pm
Fees is when its lightning too .
Mr. B June 13, 2013 at 01:29 pm
They're not Americans. They don't deserve to step foot on American soil.
Good Grief Y'all June 13, 2013 at 01:34 pm
Meh, a difference without distinction.
Good Grief Y'all June 13, 2013 at 01:37 pm
Huh, you learn something once in a while on Patch blog threads. I didn't know you must be anRead More American citizen to be tried and convicted of crimes against America . . . ;p I think John and Sarah could handle them . . . you betcha! They would probably beg to be sent back to Gitmo. LOL
EMILY GOLDSTEIN June 7, 2013 at 10:35 am
We don't know yet..it was not me who found her. They had Gwinnett pick her up after staying withherRead More for a few hours..we will know after they process her there. I have contacted golden retriever rescues to let them know so they can see if they have lost ads ..or if need be rescue her
EMILY GOLDSTEIN June 8, 2013 at 02:24 am
She is so sad and missing her owner ANIMAL ID#32243 I am in PEN 114, FEMALE, GOLDEN RETRIEVER. TheRead More shelter thinks I am 3 YEARS OLD. I will be available for adoption starting 6/12/13. FOUND STRAY, LARGE, FRIENDLY Contact the shelter for more info 770-339-3200.
EMILY GOLDSTEIN June 10, 2013 at 03:11 am
Reunited!